The Healing power of Surgery - 2

This post is in continuation to my last post. Please find below the link for the same: http://atlasshrugged-eccentric.blogspot.in/2013/04/the-healing-powe-rof-surgery-1.html

     4. It also increased my love for my family and relatives many folds. There was a lot of things to do just before the marriage like card distribution, sweets order, so many bookings and what not in any typical Indian marriage. Since I cannot help, he alone has to do it. He was so busy and stressed in those days. Also, my cousins Saransh and Ayush also did a lot of work. All this told me the importance and value of relatives. You cannot walk alone, you always need people to share your joys and sorrows. Everybody helped me to deal with it but it is my wife who knows it all after marriage. She knew sometimes I felt so low due to it. Her emotional support was tremendous and perhaps greater than any other power.  http://atlasshrugged-eccentric.blogspot.in/2013/01/for-my-loving-wife.html

5.   It taught me the self-discipline and patience which are the 2 most important attributes to be happy according to me. I had to follow a strict regime everyday comprising of physiotherapy session; exercise 2-3 times at home as told by the doctor, ice pack, medicines on time, healthy diet, fruits. I also realized no matter how hard you try, healing will not be expedited beyond a particular limit. Being patient was the only option. I would like to reiterate my favorite quote which I have already used many times in my blog: Nature never hurries yet everything is accomplished. I adopted the pace of the nature, her secret is patience.

      6. Whenever I think of my surgery, my share of Bad Karmas (deeds) came in front of my eyes. I was able to recall the moments of my life whenever I lied, criticize somebody without any reason and did something which was not right and against my soul. As a result of all this, I forgive everybody in my heart with whom I had issues at some point of my life and released my emotions. I thought life is much bigger than carrying all these small little things of no value in heart. This thing does not matter much. I become much more fully alive than ever before. Somebody has rightly said that Death can teach you about life.

   7.   It accelerated my journey towards my spiritual growth. I had a lot of time at my disposal which allowed me to listen to my inner self. I started reading the Speaking tree section that comes in TOI (Times of India) every day and started loving it. Later, I searched some books on spirituality and found them very interesting and helping too. I also get introduced to Mediation, mindful techniques which however I did not practice.

8.  I once read it somewhere that this world is a very friendly place to live and the universe is conspiring for all of us to do better in our life. It is very deep wisdom. At the time of my marriage, I used to thoughts that the timing of my injury is very wrong, 10 days before my marriage, it will kill the fun element in the marriage and also my marriage photographs will not be that good as I will be captured along with the plaster cast and it reminds me about the injury every time I will look at the photographs. But now, I thought 10 days before the marriage was the best time that the injury can happen. At this point, I successfully unleashed the hidden reasons behind it. If it would after the marriage, somebody got a chance to say that my marriage brings me bad luck or something like that. And if it would happen a long time before my marriage then who would have taken care of me in Hyderabad as my family is in Saharanpur, U.P. and I work in Hyderabad.

Who would have taken me to physiotherapy session every day, who would help me to follow the discipline, who would have drop me to my office every day and who would have given me the emotional support. Thanks to my wife.

The Healing Power of Surgery - 1

Today, once again my belief that everything on this earth has a purpose becomes stronger with time; the only thing is that you have to look inwards to find the purpose. I would like to discuss how my illness transformed me, changed my life for a better, and also changes my values and attitude. I start appreciating life more; I feel I came closer to myself. 

On 11^th Nov2012, 2 days before Diwali (Festival in India), I met with an accident. It was first time in my life that I planned to celebrate Diwali away from my home but perhaps it was not accepted to higher powers. As a result of which, I went to home on 12^th Nov. My surgery of right elbow, for implanting 4 screws, was planned on 16^th Nov., 8 days before my marriage date which is 24^th Nov. Me and my family biggest nightmares were about the execution of marriage and various associated ceremonies. Biggest problem was that as I was not able to move my right hand at all, how will I put wedding ring in her finger and likewise as all the ceremonies should be performed by the right hand only. But in my case, I performed it with left hand and managed somehow with the help of my relatives. Let me share with you my learning during this 3 month long phase which was perhaps not less than ages for me. 

We tend to think of illness as a problem which can be full of sufferings and problems but I believe in the process there are many things that we can learn from it. When you fall ill, life comes to standstill, you find it difficult to pass time as you don’t have to go to work which gets a major share of our time but at the same time, you have the opportunity to think about lot of things and people you were ignoring, about the issues unresolved in your subconscious mind and many other things and here starts your realization. Illness came in my life as a teacher, inspiration. Let me unleash some of things I realized during this not so bad phase.

1.     I realize the value of my family and loved ones. No matter how hard you work in your life but at the time of crisis, it is only your family who come to rescue you and not your boss or Client. I became very much dependent during that time and everybody helped me to deal with it. I just wanted to say never ignore your family members and always take care for these relations. Man is a social anima as we keep hearing, although it is an era of nuclear family but I believe there is always a feeling of lack of support in nuclear family and nothing can beat the power of the joint family where your happiness doubles and sorrows vanishes.

2.     I started living in gratitude. Whenever I visited hospital, I always thanked god that my injury is nothing compared to other people out there. It was the beginning of the time when I began to realize that I have so much compared to others but instead of being thankful, I long for the things, opportunities that others have. I started loving myself and my family more. I saw people with only 1 leg which made me changed my attitude towards life. I saw people who came for their treatment alone but with me, my whole family is there, lucky me. We should always be thankful for all the things.

3.     I understand the importance of health and it can be realized only when you lost it. I remember when the range of motion was so less that I am even not able to brush my teeth, apply oil to my hair and shaving and many other trivial but indispensable tasks. I become very dependent. When I saw the other people doing it, I felt kind of longing, very deep longing to get my range of the right hand back. I realized at that time if you really want to enjoy the life, which I had and will always, good health is most basic requirement. Without good health, you will not enjoy a single thing. At that time, I decided to take care of my health and improve my lifestyle. I develop a taste for healthy food and at the same time condemned pizzas, burgers etc. and thank god, my wife also didn’t like junk food else the newlywed couple generally have lot of junk food. Also, at this time of my life, first time I got a feeling to quit from non-vegetarian food. Although I have not become vegetarian completely but I have reduced the non-vegetarian food drastically in my diet. I read lot of stuff about healthy lifestyle, going green, adopting Ayurveda life style and able to accumulate some basic stuff in my everyday life like massaging my body twice a week, cleaning my tongue every day, drink 2-3 glasses of water as soon as I wake up every day, sometimes pouring a Badam Rogan drops in my nose for a good night sleep etc. These small things go a long way in improving your health and enable you to live a good healthy lifestyle.

There are some more things I want to share but due to less time, I have to sign off. I will continue this post soon and thus changed its title to show that it is first post of the series.

Please find the link of part of this post.
http://atlasshrugged-eccentric.blogspot.in/2013/05/the-healing-power-of-surgery-2.html

Friday's Magic Moment in office - 2

Tough day!

But the frenzy of travelling to home over this weekend and for 1 full week is what keeping me active.

In the morning, i was very happy with a big smile on my face but by the noon, i was so overloaded that i began to wait for the eod ( end of day). Now, its 7 but there is so much work but hopefully, i guess i will be able to make it to home not later than 10pm. Ya, it happens everyday.

Every busy day at the office is just the exact opposite of everyday spend in the college.

This time, I will be very busy at home. We (Me and CA) have around 5 days and list of to dos is still seems to be in progress. Most important is my little surgery wherein my 1 screw out of 4 in my right elbow will be removed. Doctor told us to get the screw removed after 6months but due to super good healing, my body has started pushing 1 of the screw and thus it is visible. Initially, i was bit scared as the screw become tangible as well as visible. But Doctor told me it is due to the good recovery. The other tasks planned are having lunch/dinner at many of my relatives as it is a custom to invite the newly wed couple to their house.

Hehehe!!!  the ping from someone had bring me back to present.

Just wanted to share an advice which my previous manager shared with me and that too when i was leaving the project that Love your work but never take your work so seriously because overworked is one of the biggest regret of the person in the deathbed. This advice is very common and generally given by the Hero's of our generation, be it newspaper or in television but what i am wondering is that he shared me this advice only when i was out of his project.


I think 2 bottles of Haywards 5000 is a must today and some dose of pink floyd music. Life becomes so monotonous. Also, i have not read any good book after marriage. Looking forward to read 1 good book in next 10 days which i will buy from the Airport tomorrow. Actually, i am not liking this penetration of online book markets and extinction of road side book vendors and this is actually killing my reading habits. Stop. Not that way Rachit. It is not good to blame all this for my decreased reading habits but it is me who is not able to manage the time.

I am also planning to write a blog on what all this injury has taught me and how it actually contributed in making me a better person today.

Tribute to my Grandfather - Part 3

This post is in continuation to my last 2 posts and the last one.

1. http://atlasshrugged-eccentric.blogspot.in/2013/02/u-turn-in-blogs-vision-and-tribute-to-m.html

2. http://atlasshrugged-eccentric.blogspot.in/2013/03/tribute-to-my-grandfather-part-2.html

After the holi ended, his end was also quite near. Although his health is improving, his mood was getting worse. I remembered the incident when he tore the 5 rs note. He was like a kid in those days. His activities are not like that of matured man. I once read a poem “The seven ages and it said that the 1^st and 7^th stages are exactly similar and very few people in this world experience this 7^th and last stage. I like his attitude. What happened once in last days that he asked for a pomegranate juice and that was not allowed. My grandmother told him to get him the juice of Mausami. I told her, let him drink pomegranate juice. She agreed and I don’t know why I said this perhaps it was in my subconscious mind that now he can be dead any time. All these things keep happened and the doom day comes, I didn’t remember the exact date. Let me tell you about the day from the very beginning. Night before the black day, I was in the hospital. In the morning, pintoo chacha came and I was asked to leave. Further, I was given certain instructions to purchase so much food from the Sargadho and give it to kodi aashram and also to go to gaushala where the holy cows live to donate some money over there for the grass, diet of the cow. After finishing these things, I went straight to home and slept. It was around 6,7 pm when my mother woke me up informing me, he was no longer among us.

Babaji was the word I used for him. He always asks me to sit in his room while dinner but I talk to him for a while and then went into my room. I was such a pathetic couch potato who didn’t understand the value. He keeps coming into my dreams and still threatens me some times, haha, it was a funny. I think today also, he would come to my dreams and to tell me how I was going on the blog about him, whether to include anything or erase anything. He was such a darling. There are lot of incidents that I remember quite vividly about him. There are also certain events about which today I feel guilty. There were days when I didn’t respect him at all and argues him, totally ignore him but gradually, I started about his way of thinking and emotions as I am growing. May be same would happen to me and even worse, this is life.

He was also the topic when I was drinking with my brother in Fox, Gurgaon. Everybody on our family is so grateful to him. He was the one who decided to switch to job after his retirement as my father died when I was small, he advised my mother to become a teacher. He decided that we both should continue our school It was he who decided to construct the shops in our garden. It was the most difficult of the decision of his life as we all know how much close is the garden to his heart. Efforts never go waste and when the time was come to reap the benefits of his efforts, he passed away. His decisions are so fruitful to us today. He makes us feel proud always. One thing I always learned from him is to live with proud. He was very passionate and once when I went with him to distribute Diwali gifts, somebody told him why do you drink? My Baba simply replied, it was my passion and the people lives for their passion. Those were also the great days when every year I used to go to him to distribute gifts in the morning in chacha’s car Fiat. These memories also keep flashing. Mostly, dhadkan music was played in the car as it was the only cassette in the car. As a result of which, whenever I listen to the songs of this movie, I got lost in my younger days which I spend with my babaji. I like the way my baba and his attitude was respected by everybody.

Tribute to my Grandfather - Part 2

This post is in continuation to my last post.

http://atlasshrugged-eccentric.blogspot.in/2013/02/u-turn-in-blogs-vision-and-tribute-to-m.html

I caught a train from Lucknow. Its Lucknow Chandigarh, I usually prefer this train because I know how to get berth in this train without the reservation, in fact process is same in all the cases, I would rather say I know what the TT charges in this case. I was very lucky to catch this train as the time was not sufficient but still one thing we learn in colleges is rash driving. Here comes its application. In the meantime, I also enquired my brother if it was the truth what the mother said or something else. My brother confirmed and told he would leave Delhi tomorrow morning along with bua and fufaji and of course my cousins. It was a very chilly night and the rain was falling continuously  It appeared to me for a moment if there is something wrong seriously as the god was also supporting my eyes. It was of course very serious but during such times, it’s a tendency of the mind to be steered towards negative and worst repercussions. I talked to the tt, got the birth and those were the days, when I have started reading. I have said reading because Atlas shrugged was my first serious reading of the life. It also helps me in bad times. As I woke up, I had a cigarette and waited for the destination. My mind was full of what-if questions. It was heavily raining and the environment was very depressed. As I landed in Saharanpur, I got a call from my brother. They have just entered in Saharanpur at around 8am and as the arrival time of my train was also the same, on the top of it, it was raining, So they called me to know where I have reached. When I informed them, they came at station to receive me and then we all finally went directly to the hospital. I always feel a kind of shyness in company of my relatives. I don’t know whether it is natural or due to my other mental requirements. 

After we exchanged the greetings in the hospital, there was a kind of contact of eyes between me and my grandfather that dampen my eyes and spirit little. But I try to remain normal, as soon as we entered, condition of DM is getting worse and someone told me to get the Gangajal from the house of Dr. Jaipal Uncle whose house is very close. I walked in the rain to the house unaware of the whether it was tears or water, I asked for the same. This was another point where I felt little shyness. I went back to the hospital and my grandmother helped him to swallow the gangajal. In Hindu mythology, something rubbish is believed about gangajal and its effect or what so ever. I think I shouldn’t say the water rubbish but who knows is it really the gangajal. Haha…its normal in our mythology but let it be, we shouldn’t make fun of it. One must try to accept people and things and traditions as they are and not as he perceived. After spending some time, we were asked to go to home and then bring lunch after a gap of 3, 4 hours. I don’t know who went along with me, but one thing that I remember was that I left the hospital on Activa.

 The best thing is when two People love each other very much, it becomes difficult to express. This case requires no extra explanation. Beauty and love is in the eyes of beholder as said by Shakespeare, in fact I would say respected Shakespeare. The days passed like this, DM began to recover slowly, relatives left, my brother plan to left on holi. 

Holi also comes, I went to railway station to drop my brother. That holi was not the most colorless. There were Holi’s even horrible and depressing than that. Those were the days when my disagreement was at the peak against those who preaches Holi is the most colorful festival. Of course, it was a bad argument.

 Things comes and goes, life moves on. Life waits for nobody and the most mystic element i.e., time heals everything. 

Stay tuned! I will continue it further.